I think the biggest thing that successful women have been led to believe is that the feminist movement was going to lead to total liberation for women. And it just didn't. 

That took me decades to admit.

First of all, as a proper feminist, I couldn't bear to criticize the movement that had so greatly contributed to my success.

Second, as a successful woman, I had developed the belief I could go over, under or around any obstacle.  I didn't want to acknowledge my vulnerabilities.

But the good news is, once I admitted that I had ZERO interest in continuing to be the woman who so excelled at do do do mode, I could soften into my desire to feel supported, taken care of and protected. 

I was ready to actually claim what it meant to "have it all".

I was ready to be fierce, feminine and free.  I had learned the first one - to be fierce - quite well but without the "feminine" part, I wasn't ever going to truly be free.

That meant I would need to totally rewire my approach, especially with the men and boys in my life but I was up to the task because I longed to live as a Queen.

I soooo wish I had had a mentor.  It was a bumpy road but I figured it out and that is how I blossomed into the woman I am today.

I tell you all of this so you know that, with a little guidance, you can live as the woman you've always wanted to be.